ACCIDENTAL ABUSE, PART II

Last week we talked about the three most common ways we can shortchange our praise teams.

It’s never fun to discover you’re guilty of this, but I do think that a little analysis will help us figure out what’s up and formulate a plan of attack.

So, how does this happen? How does an organization get to this place?

IT’S EASY
This is where the “accidental” part comes in. None of us set out to shame or embarrass our team, but it can happen so fast. And the reason may shock you:

Because people will let you.

The people in your team love playing music. They love it. And for praise bands featuring volunteer players, those folks would drive countless hours and log numerous nights just for the chance to “jam” with a band. Sit down with somebody who’s stuck around a terrible band situation and one of the reasons you’ll probably hear is this:

“I like to play music.”

Your teammates love music more than they hate your bad attitude, but that doesn’t make it okay. Every time you lose it with a team member, you do damage to team morale and to that person’s heart. It would be easier to spot this if more folks stood up to it, but the nature of having folks who are hooked on jamming means that you have to manage this.

WE’RE INSECURE
Any time I tell someone that musicians are insecure, they can’t believe it. And I’ll agree – it’s baffling. Sadly, a team gets into bad shape when the worship leader is the most insecure person on the stage.

It happens that way in lots of churches and it’s not easy to combat.

An insecure worship leader will plan and lead with an agenda – making himself or herself appear a certain way, whether that means looking “cool” or spiritual or creative or in-charge. This sort of insecurity will instantly trump all other concerns. Suddenly, we’re leading with a filter…we make sure everything make us look good. No matter what it takes.

FEAR
If you’re abusing folks, somebody on that team sees it. But not many people will step up and confront you as the leader. They’re afraid and the fears are as varied as the people who own them. If you’re at a place where your team is afraid to talk honestly with you about attitude and approach, begin praying for ways to engage in those conversations without being insecure.

Real talk works.

Once again, three things to consider. I believe these three traits (weaknesses?) contribute to praise bands that are dysfunctional. Now we need to look at how to combat these trends!

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