I’ve been leading worship for twenty years and the longer I do it, the more convinced I become.

The key to remaining a faithful, honorable worship leader with a healthy marriage, home life and ministry is this –


Make sure you’ve got two or three people who you can be honest with. People who love no matter what you say or do. People who can call you down when you’re out of line.

“Fans” can’t fill this role. You need people who think you’re awesome because they love who you are, not what you do.

I’ve seen a lot of worship leaders leave the ministry for a lot of different reasons, but the thing that remains the same among all of them?

They did it alone.

Worship leaders, I know it’s easier for us to sing for hundreds than sit in a friend’s living room and be honest. I know that leading worship is so difficult and stressful that every Sunday is one more day of survival. I know that it’s embarrassing to share the ugliest parts of you.

But if you and I don’t have somebody close to us? We’re doomed.

Bear the awkwardness of accountability! Invite it. Embrace it in the knowledge that it has the potential to protect you. Or better yet – to protect those you love and lead.

Ecclesiastes 4:12-13
12And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
 13Better was a poor and wise youth than an old and foolish king who no longer knew how to take advice.



  1. Liz Reeves

    Oh. My. Goodness.

    YESSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Having been there, done that, I can wholeheartedly agree. Ministry can be a VERY LONELY job because you can’t really be REAL with anyone. You can’t speak about certain topics, you can’t completely let down your guard with anyone in the church, your coworkers can’t be your closest friends because sometimes your biggest troubles stem from THEM. Life in the fishbowl is hard, hard, hard. You *must* find people you can be intimate & honest with, who can see over your walls & behind your veils, who you allow in. Without it, you will never be happy & able to serve God the way He intended.

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